He Calls Me Instead Of Texting | What Does It Mean?

People prefer calling over texting because of many reasons, as both have their pros and cons. While others are hardcore text enthusiasts and hate calling due to very valid reasons.

If he calls you instead of texting, it means he wants to connect with you closely. Calls are more intimate than texts. If his intentions are bad, he could be doing it to avoid any communication trail. He could say anything over a call and deny it later. Texts are always riskier because of screenshots.

Though calls can be recorded, most people don’t think of it quickly. And if he is your boyfriend, then maybe he finds calling more convenient and comfortable. If you want him to think of you as a super attractive, high-value female, you need to become one. Faking it doesn’t help for long.

Pro-tip: Chasing a man is never a wise move if he isn’t chasing you too.

To make him see you in a new light, tap into his emotional and biological drive. Read His Secret Obsession to know how.

Before We Begin

Maybe your guy wants to know you better by calling and listen to you speak.

It could also be possible that he expresses himself better over calls as compared to texts and therefore prefers calling.

Texting feels dull and boring to some, whereas, on a call, they can express themselves better.

Now, you need to figure out what is bothering you.

Is it that he calls you a lot and you don’t like it? Or do you want him to text you as you are more comfortable with texts?

If it’s the latter, I have a helpful guide for you where I explain how you can make a guy text you without even texting him!

When A Guy Calls You On The Phone What Does It Mean?

When a guy calls you on the phone, it means he feels that texting isn’t appropriate enough to talk to you. Either he has something urgent to say, or he prefers to hear your voice. Currently, texting feels tedious to him, and he wants to form a more personal connection.

Guys can call you for many reasons and sometimes without any reason.

The best way to find out is to follow your instincts because you always have an idea of what’s going around. Just pay close attention.

1. You Are His All-Time Help

He might really like you to be comfortable enough for asking your help. There is a strong reason why he might like you.

If you are his classmate, friend, or colleague, then you can always find him calling you for help.

Every time you pick the call, he is in some situation where he needs your help.

Sometimes it’s homework, or college assignment or office work, whenever he is in trouble, he needs you.

There has never been a moment on a call where he is talking about things other than work. You are never the one to dial his number.

This guy disappears after the job is done. He is never interested in knowing you and all he wants is a favor every time.

TABLE: Men On Asking A Girl Who Likes Them For Multiple Favors

It’s unethical77%
It’s not using her if I like her too5%
Helping each other out should be mutual15%
It’s just a test to see how much she likes me3%
Source: A survey conducted by RebootLoveLife.com consisting of 204 men.

While most men think of it as unethical and many believe in equality in favors, not all are kind enough to not use you.

So, be careful as you may be helping him thinking he must feel something for you, whereas he might be nothing but a help-seeking parasite.

You Are His All-Time Help

2. He Is Drunk

When a guy is drunk, either he will call his best friend or his girlfriend/ex.

If he calls you while he is drunk and says he is missing you, then too, don’t take any hints because a drunk person can say I love you to his guy friend as well.

Read our article on all the situations when a guy might say I love you despite not dating you for more clarity on the subject.

He may like you or it’s just because he thinks of you as his best friend and talking to you cheers him up.

Or something happened at that particular point of time that reminded him of you.

If he really likes you, then definitely, he will tell you directly, or you will get some sure shot hints from his side while he is drunk calling you.

3. You Are His Best Friend

If this guy has been your friend for a while and he calls you, but you don’t know what exactly he feels for you, then the best way to figure out is to notice what he talks about while on call.

Does he share all his secrets with you because he isn’t worried about embarrassing himself and losing you?

He never plans a special meeting and never asks you out for dinner with him. Also, he never blushes while talking to you.

If he talks about which girl he has a crush on and is always talking about everything other than you, then most probably, you are his best friend.

Yeah, you have been friend-zoned!

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4. He Sees You As An Opportunity

Sometimes guys see you as their potential date and will try everything to make that happen.

So, some desperate guys who are not even a good friend of yours can call you a lot just to stay connected.

They want to remind you of themselves every time and try to impress you.

If you are already in a relationship, they will subtly try to break it, and you won’t even realize as for you they are the ones helping you see things ‘clearly’.

They will show you all the downsides of your relationship so that once you are single, they can ask you out immediately.

And achieving all of this just via texts is a bit too difficult, hence the constant calls.

5. He Has Something To Hide

A bad scenario would be where for some reason, he does not want to get caught while chatting with you or fears someone might find your texts on his phone.

So, to keep his tracks clear, he prefers calling. If you think he has an ulterior motive, then you need to be careful.

Does he already have a girlfriend and doesn’t want to get caught chatting with you? It is for you to find out.

He Has Something To Hide

6. He Actually Loves You

If he calls you every day and you two have long conversations, then most probably this guy is secretly in love with you.

Why does he love you? Read my article on the same!

Clearly, he is too shy to admit that and wants to stay connected to you by calls without revealing his true feelings.

Every time you talk to him, he is all praises about you. He tells all the things he likes about you. Listening to your voice makes him happy.

There are moments of silence on call that explains a lot about his feelings for you. He is more interested in your life, and he wants to know everything about you.

Pro-tip: Chasing a man is never a wise move if he isn’t chasing you too.

To make him see you in a new light, tap into his emotional and biological drive. Read His Secret Obsession to know how.

Is It A Good Sign If A Guy Calls You?

If a guy calls you, it is a good sign. However, he should be showing signs of interest in you. If a guy is not interested, the call would mean nothing except a means to convey his point across quickly. If his intentions are evil, calling you would make it easier to find your weaknesses.

If a guy interested in you is calling you, it means he wants to know you more and connect with you on a deeper level. It could be the start of something special.

1. He Is Comfortable With You

Some guys may be timid when it comes to talking on a call with someone new.

If he wants to call then your guy has grown comfortable with you where he can communicate on a call with you without hesitation.

He does not fear that you’ll judge him and thinks he can be himself in front of you without any pretense.

He liked texting you, and now wants to build a more positive and fruitful connection through phone calls.

2. You Are Important To Him

Usually, guys avoid talking on the phone unless it’s something important. But if your guy is willing to call you, then you have become really important to him.

He wants to hear your voice, admire the way you speak. He is ready to take out time for you and make a call.

3. He Wants To Know You Better

By talking on the phone, he wants to become a part of your daily routine, where he gets to know everything that goes on with you.

He wants to give his undivided attention to you. If he is calling you today and things go right then most probably, he is going to ask you out soon.

So, do not worry and feel conscious. Just pick up the call and give a heads up to this new beginning of your relationship.

Pro-tip: Chasing a man is never a wise move if he isn’t chasing you too.

To make him see you in a new light, tap into his emotional and biological drive. Read His Secret Obsession to know how.

Why Is Calling Better Than Texting?

Calling is better than texting because hearing someone’s voice makes the conversation personal. The tone of your voice can do wonders that mere words on a screen cannot achieve. You always express and communicate more while calling, even if you don’t say much.

In our busy modern lives, it becomes difficult to take out time for our loved ones. Texting makes it easier to communicate something quickly.

It also allows you to hide behind a screen and take time to think before replying.

However, you should prefer talking on a call if you want to have a meaningful conversation.

1. Talking On Call Can Help Strengthen Bonds

Calling him is a great way to show that you care for him, and he is important to you. If you want to show him you are concerned about him, give him a call.

The best way to tell you were thinking about him is to call as in a text your true feelings get lost in between.

Calling is a better way to know someone and build intimacy.

You get to be yourself on call, and you can be spontaneous and say whatever is the first thing that comes to your mind without editing.

On a call, you get enough time to express yourself and talk in detail. Also, you get to listen to his voice over the phone call.

You listen to him being happy, sad, angry, exhausted, etc. and you will feel connected to his life.

Talking On Call Can Help Strengthen Bonds

2. Reduces The Chances Of Misunderstandings

People can misread and misinterpret texts, and a small issue becomes huge because of ambiguous text messages.

Text messages are responsible for creating a lot of misunderstandings between people as texts can be vague at times.

It becomes hard to decipher the tone and actual meaning behind the written text.

One should never have a serious conversation on the text as it can lead to a bigger conflict.

It has happened to many because you just read and come to a conclusion without discussing things on a call or face to face.

You create your own perceptions of his texts, thus increasing miscommunication and fights.

Arguments on text could be the worst nightmare for someone who has a hard time while typing.

3. Phone Calls Are Quick

Phone calls are a faster way of communication than text messages because everyone is just a call away.

On text, you have to wait for him to respond after each text whereas on call you can save so much of extra waiting time.

No waiting for texts means no arguments regarding not being available all the time.

While talking on the phone, you connect with him in real-time, and listening to his voice can make you feel as if he is around you.

Calling ensures your message reaches on time, as you will be the one delivering it verbally. You can’t rely on text messages for the same.

Calling someone is a warmer feeling than texting.

4. Texting Is Messy

You can not multitask as freely as you do while calling. Your hands are constantly in use for typing but calling someone can be a hands-free experience.

Texting can be pressurizing as you have to be precise and be extra careful with your words.

Vague and ambiguous texts have higher chances of being misread or misinterpreted.

Texting Is Scuffling

5. Texting Hides The Person Behind

Texting never shows the true side of a person as they have ample time to plan out their answer.

People get to plan what they will write next and sometimes even discuss their replies with friends before hitting the send button.

People can be fake on texting whereas you are forced to be somewhat spontaneous on a call in comparison.

6. You Get Undivided Attention On Call

Talking on call is good for those who like undivided attention from others while sharing things.

On chat, you cannot control the response of the person as they can be busy doing something else simultaneously.

On a call, it becomes easy to figure out if the other person is understanding what you are saying or is confused as you can hear them.

While chatting, due to the waiting period, we may lose the actual context of the conversation.

On a call, you can make sure the other person is listening to you and prevent them from indulging in different work at the same time.

Pro-tip: Chasing a man is never a wise move if he isn’t chasing you too.

To make him see you in a new light, tap into his emotional and biological drive. Read His Secret Obsession to know how.

How Do You Make A Guy Call You Instead Of Texting?

To make a guy call you instead of texting, go off the radar completely. Stop opening and seeing his texts as you will feel tempted to reply. Use your phone normally as you would but do not reply. When a few of his texts go unanswered, he will wonder what’s up with you and will be forced to call.

If you are sick of texting and spending a lot of time looking at your phone screen waiting for a response, then calling him is the solution for you.

And if you want him to call you then here are some more points which will help you remind him of the lost art of phone calls.

1. Become Mysterious

Being mysterious in a subtle way is considered one of the best ways to keep someone attracted to you and make them come back again and again.

If you want your guy to call you, then don’t be a chatterbox on the text. Exhibit mystery by restraining your words and replies through your text.

Mostly try to keep your conversation away from your personal life as people lose interest after they know everything about you.

Ask questions about them but don’t answer all the questions related to you.

Don’t tell everything about yourself in one go and keep him guessing all the time.

Let him imagine what kind of person you’d turn out to be on call, and they will call you to see if they were right about you.

The curiosity to know more and more about you will make them pick that phone up and call you.

But exhibiting mystery is just not enough. There are several other things you need to know and do! Read more about them in my article on how to make a guy chase you.

Become Mysterious

2. Spend Less Time Online

It is the best way to make your guy wonder about your schedule.

If you are always available on chat, then he is less likely to make a move and call you as texting is effortless.

You must start spending less time with your phone. This way, he will be curious to know your whereabouts.

Stop replying to his texts immediately as it will leave him with no option other than to call you and know what’s up with you.

You need to let drive him to a point where he feels that talking on the phone is a better way to communicate with you than texting.

If you are less available on texts from the very beginning, he will automatically know your preference.

3. Initiate The First Call

Sometimes guys are too shy. Remember they have a hard time asking you for your number?

Texting is a comfortable space, as there is no fear of being judged for how you speak. You get time to plan your actions on the text.

Whereas talking on the phone becomes awkward in the beginning, people become self-conscious while talking.

So, if you want your guy to call you then certainly you should try initiating the call. While giving him your number tell you’ll be waiting for their call.

Or ask him for his number and be the first one to call. No, it will not make you look desperate!

You need to break the ice first to make him comfortable with the idea of calling.

4. Give Him Time To Miss You

How can you expect a call from him when you are always connected with him through text messages?

Things will be the way they are until he realizes the emptiness of you not being round.

Give him the time to miss you and be available for only a couple of hours each day on texts.

Yeah, you read that right. Set aside a couple of hours each day to talk to him and do not be available to chat during other hours.

It can be one hour during the day and one hour at night. Stick to your resolution.

If you are not able to answer his texts in those couple of hours, reply to them the next day.

Remember the goal here is to make him call. Take some time out for yourself. Keep him waiting for your response to the messages.

We are not asking you to play mind games here.

Your lifestyle should be genuinely busy instead of doing nothing and sitting all day, waiting for his texts.

You should be the first one to cut the call or end the chat as it will urge him to call you first to continue the conversation next time.

But one should always know how to maintain a balance, otherwise, he may end up losing interest in you.

Thus 1.5-2 hours spread throughout the day is optimum.

Give Him Time To Miss You

5. Be Direct And Tell Him To Call You

The best way would be to tell him to call you. It does not mean you need to be rude or aggressive while saying so.

Just playfully convey the message to him.

For example, if you are chatting, leave him a text in between saying “Call me sometime today, I like to hear your voice.”

Or you can let him know you love talking to him and look forward to talking on a call with him as it will be fun.

You need to make him feel comfortable and show him how important he is to you. However, don’t overdo it or do it every day.

Remember, he still needs to find you mysterious, intriguing, and interesting!

The moment he loses interest or you become too available, the attraction would start to die down. Therefore, use this tactic sparingly.

Pro-tip: Chasing a man is never a wise move if he isn’t chasing you too.

To make him see you in a new light, tap into his emotional and biological drive. Read His Secret Obsession to know how.

What If A Guy Only Texts You And Never Calls?

If a guy only texts you and never calls, it means he isn’t comfortable around you. If he likes you, it could be because he feels he is not spontaneous enough and will embarrass himself. If he has no interest in you, it means that he wants to keep communication with you as brief as possible.

Why did we include this section despite it being clear that your guy is only calling you and not texting?

Because it’s always helpful to know the other end of the extreme to understand male psychology better.

1. Guys Feel Awkward On A Call

Women are more expressive and talkative as compared to men.

It becomes difficult for guys to talk on call for hours and hours because they have fewer things to say as compared to girls.

No, we are not sexists and not generalizing.

It is something we have commonly observed over the years, and of course, we don’t disagree that exceptions do exist.

No doubt guys will be ready to listen to you talk, but they usually have very little to contribute.

Texting is more convenient for guys as they get enough time to decide what to say and also it gives them the freedom to multitask.

2. He Is Not Interested In You

If a guy never calls you, then chances are he is not that much into you. He is staying in contact through chats as it is not much of an effort.

Maybe he does not want to take things to the next level by calling you.

As talking to someone over the phone develops deeper connections, and this guy does not see you worthy of their time.

It is also possible that this guy is trying to hide something from you.

He can easily get caught on a call whereas through texts you do not get the idea of a person’s surrounding through background noise.

He Is Not Interested In You

3. He Is Actually Busy

It is also possible that he is actually busy at work that he doesn’t get time to talk to you.

It is common for people to have such a schedule that doesn’t even allow them to breathe, let alone talk on the phone.

So, if this is the situation, then you both need to understand each other and take out some ‘special’ time to talk.

Otherwise, any sort of relationship with communication gaps does not end up well. Let him know your concern and try to resolve it.

Pro-tip: Chasing a man is never a wise move if he isn’t chasing you too.

To make him see you in a new light, tap into his emotional and biological drive. Read His Secret Obsession to know how.


The mode of communication doesn’t matter if the guy really likes you. Don’t let his actions affect your behavior and leave no room for doubts.

Try to be at your best all the time to keep him attracted to you.

Now it’s your turn. Tell us in the comments below why do you think he is calling you and what do you plan on doing?

Shashank Verma

A trained theatre actor and a STEM graduate who brings perspectives and methods from these worlds into dating and relationships. Also a big time Krav Maga enthusiast and practitioner.

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