5 Scenarios Where a Kiss Can and Can’t Make You Come

Ah, kissing. Quite a fascinating act, isn’t it? Often the first way that a couple experiences intimacy, kissing, may seem like a simple action but is quite dynamic when looked at in a detailed manner. We all remember our first kisses and many of our intimate sessions start with a light peck on the lips. But can just a kiss make you come?

Situations where a kiss can make one come (have an orgasm), are: having a strong emotional connection with their partner, intense foreplay before sex, passionately making out, kissing after a prolonged period of lack of sexual encounters, the “second” orgasm just after the first one (for women), etc.

Let’s look at such situations in detail.

Situations When a Kiss Can Make You Come

1. Emotional Connection

Nothing stimulates a person better than the one they desire who wants them back with the same intensity. The emotional connection acts as a kind of catalyst for the physical act in such situations.

The body is relaxed, knowing they are in the safe space of their love, and this makes the person more prone to sexual stimulation as the brain drops inhibitions and restrictions.

Combining all this with a good kissing session can lead to a fulfilling and satisfying orgasm, often for both parties.

Emotional Connection

2. Foreplay

Foreplay is essential. It makes the transition from a casual hangout with your partner to a passionate night (or day, whatever floats your boat) quite smooth, and a kiss is often the way it all starts.

In fact, sometimes the foreplay is so intense that it can lead to a happy ending, that is, an orgasm, especially for women. Now, this doesn’t mean the end of things.

A good foreplay that ends in an orgasm can still and often does lead to a complete sexual encounter, with all the bases covered and the home run secured.

 So, go all out with the foreplay. Your partner might just love it!

3. Intense Make-Out

Well, you can’t have a complete sexual rendezvous always. Sometimes it’s the lack of time, the wrong place or even just a lack of mood to go all the way. But the urge to finish is always there.

And there comes the intense make-out session. Depending on the couple, it can stretch from a few minutes to a few hours.

A good, intense session involves a lot of fondling, a lot of grabbing, a lot of grazing, and of course, a lot of kissing. Some couples even bite each other’s lips! But hey, no judgment from me.

Such intense make-outs can lead to an orgasm, with kissing being the prime driver of it.

4. Prolonged Abstinence

This happens to virgins and people who have not had any sexual experiences for a long time. Kissing can lead to a fulfilling encounter for such people.

A prolonged period of lack of any sexual activity makes them more sensitive to stimulations, and a good kissing event can make them finish faster.

The pent-up sexual desire is released, and the person experiences much-needed sexual satisfaction.

5. The “Second” Orgasm

Primarily applicable for the ladies, but a soft-yet-passionate kissing session just after her orgasm can lead to another one.

Orgasm for women lasts longer than for their male counterparts, and women are also more sensitive after their orgasm.

During this time, if the woman is stimulated, even if mildly, then it can lead to her finishing again, and often faster and more intensely than the previous one.

The higher sensitivity due to the previous one is the catalyst here and kind of “adds” to her previous orgasm. After all, a double is always better than one, right? 

Tip: Talk this out with your partner before trying this. Some women are just too sensitive after their first orgasm that the second one can lead to a significantly worse experience.

As always, communication is key. But what about the situations where kissing is just not enough for an orgasm? Let’s see.

Situations When a Kiss Cannot Make You Come

1. Lack Of Sexual Attraction

Sexual attraction is a complex process that involves physical, emotional, and psychological factors.

If you don’t feel sexually attracted to the person you are kissing, it may be less likely that the kiss will lead to sexual arousal or orgasm.

This is because sexual attraction is often based on physical characteristics, such as body type, scent, or facial features, as well as personality traits, such as confidence, humor, or intelligence.

If you are not attracted to your partner in these ways, it may be difficult to experience sexual pleasure or orgasm from kissing alone.

In fact, you might fall in love with someone you’re not physically attracted to, however, it’ll not make you feel like jumping on them and wanting to kiss them passionately.

Lack Of Sexual Attraction

2. Lack Of Emotional Connection

We mentioned how a strong emotional connection could act as a catalyst for the orgasm, and thus, consequently, if you don’t feel emotionally connected to your partner, a kiss may not be enough to lead to orgasm.

Emotional intimacy can be built through activities such as talking, spending time together, and showing affection in non-sexual ways.

When emotional intimacy is established, it can lead to a deeper sense of trust and comfort, which can help facilitate sexual pleasure and orgasm.

3. Physical Limitations

Human bodies are special and different. Thus, something that may be stimulating for one may be numbing one for another.

Thus, some people’s bodies are just not responsive enough to sexual stimulation, which involves just kissing and may require other “methods”.

Additionally, some medical conditions or physical limitations may also make it difficult or impossible to experience sexual pleasure or orgasm.

For example, conditions such as diabetes, multiple sclerosis, and spinal cord injuries can affect nerve function and blood flow, which are important for sexual arousal and orgasm.

Moreover, some medications or surgeries may have sexual side effects, such as decreased libido or difficulty achieving orgasm. 

4. Different Sexual Preferences

We mentioned in the previous point how different people’s bodies require different stimulations to achieve sexual arousal.

Expanding on that, you should know that people have different sexual preferences and may not enjoy the same types of physical stimulation.

While kissing can be a pleasurable experience for some, others may prefer different types of sexual activity to reach orgasm.

This may include activities such as oral sex, manual stimulation, or intercourse.

It’s important to communicate with your partner about your sexual preferences and desires so that you can explore what works best for you.

5. Psychological Restrictions

A clear mind experiences pleasure the best. Similarly, someone who is troubled and not mentally fine may become averse to pleasures of any kind, let alone sexual ones.

Psychological factors such as stress, anxiety, or depression can affect sexual arousal and orgasmic response.

These barriers can be caused by various factors, such as work or family stress, relationship problems, or a history of trauma or abuse.

It’s important to address these barriers in order to improve your sexual health and well-being.

This may include seeking support from a mental health professional, practicing stress-reducing activities such as yoga or meditation, or making changes to your lifestyle to reduce stress and promote overall wellness.

Attraction is Incredibly Important When Kissing Someone…

Kissing is a complex act that can lead to an orgasm in certain situations.

However, it is important to remember that lack of sexual attraction, emotional connection, or physical limitations can make it difficult or impossible to experience sexual pleasure or orgasm from kissing alone.

Understanding and communicating with your partner about your desires and limitations can help build a strong emotional connection and facilitate sexual pleasure and orgasm.

I hope you’ve gain some new insights into the world of kissing and will apply your learnings wisely!

Shashank Verma

A trained theatre actor and a STEM graduate who brings perspectives and methods from these worlds into dating and relationships. Also a big time Krav Maga enthusiast and practitioner.

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