His Secret Obsession Review | Is It Worth The Cost?

If you are fed up with clichés like ‘men are from Mars and women are from Venus,’ this in-depth His Secret Obsession review is the right step towards making your life easier.

His Secret Obsession effortlessly demystifies men and boils it down to primal instincts that men have inherited over thousands of years. Very few dating guides have the material to make a gradual but solid impact on your life, and His Secret Obsession is definitely one of them.

To give you the best information, we contacted James (the author) and got our hands on a copy of this fantastic book. The guide decodes some mysteries, and this review decodes the guide.

Our Verdict

His Secret Obsession is one of the best resources ever created to pull out the seemingly extinct romance in today’s men.

While all this seems fancy and ideal in theory, the problem lies in taking actionable steps.

As a woman, you need something tangible to do, a step you can take today to improve your tomorrow. And this is what you’ll love about His Secret Obsession.

It is a step-by-step, no-nonsense, strategy filled guide on exactly how to make a man feel like a hero, connect to him in a way no woman has and make him yours in the process.

And before you even think about it, NO, it doesn’t make you play manipulative and childish games.

By the end of it, he’ll literally be blind to other women around him. Exaggeration? We thought so too initially!

His Secret Obsession Book

1. Our Rating

His Secret Obsession Book Rating

Overall Score: 94

2. Pros and Cons

+ No fluff, no-nonsense to the point advice

+ Leaves no room for guesswork

+ Deep insights into male psychology

+ Content backed by research

+ Money-back guarantee that works

– A lot of material to consume

– No paperback, only eBook & audio

– Price can be a concern for some

His Secret Obsession Key Features

In the following section we will tell you about every possible feature of the book that can ultimately make life easier for you.

1. What You Will Get In The Book?

The book consists of two main parts:

  1. How The Hero Instinct Works
  2. How to Use the Signals

While the first part dives deep into the theories behind the ‘Hero Instinct,’ the second part is about applying those concepts.

This section feeds off the previous one, and the methods won’t make much sense if you don’t go through Part I.

There is also a corresponding section towards the end called Text Message Formulas.

His Secret Obsession has a few simple goals:

  • Attract the kind of guy you dream about
  • Make your crush chase you instead of you chasing him
  • Make the guy want to commit to you
  • How to be the only woman he thinks about?
  • Re-ignite that lost spark in your dull relationship
  • Re-establish contact with ex in case of a breakup

A pleasing feature of this book is that it tries to help you achieve the above goals without having to pretend to be someone you are not, just to get the guy’s attention.

The focus is on how you can become an attractive woman in general.

Also, the methods of this book help in establishing a give and take equilibrium.

If you identify and invoke the heroic traits and feelings within him, he will understand your needs and desires in a much better way.

If you can make a man feel like a hero, he will make you feel like a goddess.

The book has more than 200 pages of content, and the bonuses are available in both the PDF and audio formats.

However, for hardcore book enthusiasts, there is no paperback or hardcover version.

2. Content & Application

The purpose of this dating guide is to help a woman get a suitable man who wants long term commitment.

Even though the content of His Secret obsession might come across as counter-intuitive to the extent of being controversial, it works.

The methods of the book focus on unravelling the primal desires in any man. Within the book, you will find answers to some critical questions like:

  • Reasons behind his fading attraction
  • When, why and how men lose interest in women?
  • Are men really commitment-phobic?
  • Signs of him pulling away
  • Identifying the red flags and lack of communication

Time and again, the book emphasizes the concept that there is an instinct that controls men and guides them.

It is the reason behind what they do and how they behave. That instinct is the ‘Hero Instinct’.

The course teaches you how to find it and push the right buttons in any man.

You can define the ‘Hero Instinct’ as:

  • Living a worthy enough life and finding meaning in it
  • Being appreciated for his efforts and respected by his peers
  • Assuming the role of an emotional, financial, mental, physical and social provider

In simple terms, he wants to be seen as a hero, the knight in shining armor.

In fact the book gives you a simple 12-word text to trigger the so called hero instinct. Here it is:

“I need you. I love you. Thank you for being my hero.”

But just sending the text without context won’t do you any good.

The book teaches you how to recognize the hero instinct as a positive aspect of his ‘ego’ and feed and reinforce it positively.

Take a step back and carefully think about all the men you’ve known in your life, romantic liaisons or otherwise.

You’ll immediately relate to the concepts of the book.

3. Effectiveness

Our work requires us to through a lot of dating programs, but the book surprised us with many points that we’ve never come across anywhere.

Many gurus are talking about a lot of stuff on YouTube, but the contents of this book isn’t the same old material being rehashed and sold as new.

It is full of eye-opening moments! It is engaging to read, and despite the massive amount of content, it isn’t filled with fluff.

You won’t feel that the same thing is being repeated over and over again.

What really impressed us is that the content is actually applicable in real-life scenarios and works.

You won’t feel as if what you are being told will only work in an idealistic world.

James has laid out the truths about male psychology as they are and asked women to use it to their advantage.

He doesn’t try to present himself as some expert.

The result is a gem of a book, the effectiveness of which we can confirm through our several years of experience studying dating and human relationships.

Further, it is a nice change to see that a man wrote a dating guide on how to attract men.

Several women have written dating programs on how to attract men, but men were lagging behind.

His Secret Obsession helps you understand men from the perspective of a man.

4. Strategical Breakdown Of Concepts

James has made sure to break down the various scenarios you might find yourself in a step-by-step way.

He then goes on to provide you with ways to tackle each of those situations.

It is literally as if someone is holding your hands and telling you what to do.

Here are a few stages or scenarios the book discusses:

Attracting the guy: As the name suggests, in this stage, James offers you techniques to spark some interest in the man you want to attract.

Monotony while dating: Here you are taught some essential psychological concepts like why men pull away in relationships or the early stages while dating.

Re-sparking the lost attraction: In this stage, you’ll work on developing and applying specific techniques to reignite a man’s interest back in you.

Even if he has cold feet, you’ll turn the situation around.

Getting an ex-boyfriend back: We’ll be honest. This is a really tough and tricky situation to be in.

Getting an ex back has the worst possible success rates in the world. Still, James has tried to help you to the best of his abilities and does a terrific job.

The content is not only impressive, but also insanely practical and effective.

The focus here will be to make your guy’s stomach tingle like the early days of the relationship, whenever he thinks about you.

5. Lots Of Free Bonus eBooks

Apart from the main book, you also get a lot of free eBooks to supplement your learning. These are:

a. Text Message Formulas

b. Endless Honeymoon

c. Why Men Shut Women Out

d. The 3 A’s of Effortless Attraction

e. “Relationship Detective” Methods

f. Hero Instinct Case Studies 1-5

6. Strong Customer Support

The customer support team is really quick in responding.

We communicated with them over several emails and they were really helpful in solving even the minutest of problems related to accessing the course.

James Bauer: The Author Of His Secret Obsession

James Bauer is a trained psychologist and a relationship coach who has poured years of research in ‘His Secret Obsession’.

The book is the crux of his learning after observing and working with thousands of men and women for 12 years.

The sheer magnitude of data based proved to be of immense help.

It made James discover how a man can defy all myths and become someone who is willing to put in the effort it takes to keep a relationship going and is there in it for the long term.

In short, the kind of men women complain, no longer exist.

While reading this dating guide, you will realize that James understands the intricate differences behind how men and women think.

He understands human psychology, its significance in relationships, and he understands it well.

His take on the approach of men towards dating and relationships and how you can use them to your advantage will leave you with countless ‘aha’ moments.


James, within his book, also tells us about a client of his called Rachel, who proved to be the reason behind writing His Secret Obsession.

Rachel was struggling with her relationship, and her man was quickly losing interest in her.

She didn’t want to seem clingy and needy by calling or texting him, and he wasn’t initiating either.

When she reached out to James, he gave her a 12-word formula which she sent to her man as a text.

Not only did her man eventually come back, but his feelings for Rachel were stronger than before.

While Rachel was on cloud nine for obvious reasons, James wasn’t happy at all.

He regretted the fact that he couldn’t help every woman who might need his help as it was physically not possible to be everywhere.

And this is when an idea of writing a complete step-by-step dating guide was born.

Many useful formulas like the 12-word formula are there in the Text Message Formulas section to trigger the hero instinct in any man.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Here are some of the common questions we often find women asking before deciding to invest their money in this guide.

1. Is His Secret Obsession Worth It?

If by ‘worth it’ you mean ‘value for money’ then let us tell you our first reaction after completing this book.

“How the hell is James charging only a few dollars when he could be making millions from this program?”. Is he stupid, or is there a catch?

It turns out the sole reason why James wrote His Secret Obsession was because, after Rachel, he wanted his knowledge to be accessible by women all over the world.

Charging an exorbitant amount would beat the whole purpose behind writing the book.

2. Is This Book For Me?

If you are a woman who sees men as toys and believes in sleeping around with them and throwing them away, we humbly request you not to buy the program.

In fact, we also request you to exit this page and this site and never ever come back again.

Both this program and our website are not for people like you.

However, if you want to form a meaningful relationship with a man of your choice and not be snubbed by guys who end up choosing other girls over you, then His Secret Obsession will not disappoint you.

It will shake your core beliefs and make you see things in a never before light.

3. What If I Don’t Like His Secret Obsession?

In the unusual scenario where you don’t find what you were looking for, James provides you with a 60-Day No Questions Asked Money Back Guarantee.

Further, your purchase is also backed by the ClickBank guarantee. ClickBank is a huge platform for digital courses and products.

They will make sure that James and his team fulfill their promise. Thus, you get double safety!

His Secret Obsession Money Back Policy


With His Secret Obsession, we have a very thought-provoking guide that teaches you to be practical when it comes to attracting the man of your choice.

The discussed perspectives is what really works in real life.

No use studying fancy theories that have no application whatsoever, right?

Twelve years of experience has been boiled down in this handy guide, and this information is worth thousands of dollars.

It will have a huge positive impact on the way you approach dating men.

Shashank Verma

A trained theatre actor and a STEM graduate who brings perspectives and methods from these worlds into dating and relationships. Also a big time Krav Maga enthusiast and practitioner.

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